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A divorce is a life changing event. Many people are totally lost after a divorce not knowing how to go about setting their lives back in order. Take heart, there are a few steps that will help to make this transition much easier. Reschedule your day Most people run their lives on a pre set schedule. They get up at approximately the same time each morning, eat from a limited number of breakfast options and go through their day doing pretty much the same thing at the same time every day. When someone is divorced either by choice or otherwise, it can be difficult to run the same routine and not dwell on the past. Find ways to reschedule the day and break out of the same traditions that have ruled life and daily life will easily be reclaimed. Perhaps the only reason someone ate oatmeal each morning was for their spouse. Maybe they prefer cream of wheat or cheerios. So take this time to reclaim what makes one happy rather than doing the same thing that’s been done for several years. Get up half an hour earlier or later, move the bedroom furniture around and consider buying new sheets and a new comforter to help change out the look of the room. Walk or drive a different route to work. Whatever it takes to reclaim life should be done. This is time to form a new life so old routines should be let go unless of course, they are what makes one happy. Evaluate friendships Often a divorce causes a loss in a friendship. Perhaps the friends take the side of the former spouse or maybe they are happily married and simply don’t understand because everything seemed perfect on the surface. Whatever the issue is, consider each and every person on the friends list and what they truly mean to you. Friendships don’t have to end on a bad note, some can simply be allowed to fade away and transition back to acquaintances. Make new friends Find new hang outs and make new friends. Sometimes making new friends will bring a sense of transition to a newly divorced person. Reclaiming ones life by making ones own choices instead of the choices of the former spouse will go far in helping someone to establish their own new life and identity. Consider relocating Perhaps the old house or apartment holds too many memories. Consider moving to a different house or apartment. Establishing ones own abode will help one to feel more in control and less threatened. A divorce is a difficult time in most peoples lives and one should consider a move carefully before undertaking it. Will it move one closer to work, family or friends? Will it help to ease the pain of walking into that room each day and remembering the past? Taking time for yourself Make and take time for oneself. A divorce is a process of letting go and beginning again. There are no set rules for how to do this. There is no right or wrong way of taking time for oneself. Consider the movies Runaway Bride or Eat Pray Love and see how Julia Roberts finds out who she really is in the movies. A divorce is a time to find out who and what a person is rather than to wallow in self pity. Learn to forgive Whether or not it’s forging oneself or forgiving the former spouse, forgiveness is the final key to reclaiming daily life after a divorce. Without forgiveness, we can’t move forward with our own lives. We’re all human and we all make mistakes. Learn from the mistake and forgive yourself or your former spouse and get on with your life. Category:Home › Other • Pomegranates: A newly discovered superfood • Where did the joke why did the chicken cross the road come from and why is it funny? • Can mothers diagnosed with bipolar disorder make good parents? • Spiritual evolution of human consciousness • Tips for getting a college basketball scholarship • Living with Pseudotumor cerebri (PTC) • Caring for the caregiver • Technologys impact on society